CRITICAL WORDS
For those in their twenty-somethings...
This puts it all into words perfectly. They call it the "Quarter-life
Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know
and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you
will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where
you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe,
those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the
greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with
are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they
are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or
insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job. It
is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are
looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the
bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same
people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so
great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you
want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than
usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in
your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force
of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy
and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that
the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but
stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do
such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone
decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone
else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a
bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting
wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the
same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends
about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry
about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and
while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a
contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates
to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as
we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something
friends...Maybe it will help some one feel like they are not alone in there
state of confusion that are our postgrad. years!!!
Best way to know your true friends loan them money.
