Here are the facts on the ground:
1) Without VOLUNTEERS like Fuzzy Logic and Jafo, this site would cease to exist. WinCustomize's #1 problem is that it lacks human expertise on many areas because it woudl cost too much to employ them. WinCustomize could never even begin to afford Fuzzy and Jafo and the others for their time. So treat them with respect.
2) WC's issue isn't bandwidth.
3)The issue is that when you have a site that gets 3+ million users, all kinds of tiny little database choices and scripting choices that are fine on a smaller site start to fall apart. I can assure you, if SkinBase.org and Skinz.org or Customize.org got even a fraction of the traffic this site gets they would run into the same trouble.
4) deviantART went through the same thing. But, for whatever reason, they are able to get vastly more subscribers which in turn allowed them to hire an entire team of full-time salaried web developers, database administrators, etc. For example, these problems people are running into (including US) we have had to look and look and look to try to find out what the problem is.
5) The specific cause of the problems is that *something* is locking the articles database across our servers. In turn, requests to it pile up and eventually the database starts to go down but not before everything slows to a crawl.
6) Hopefully you've noticed that since 1pm EST the site has been pretty stable.
7) People need to seperate WinCustomize from Stardock. Stardock's position has been consistent, it doesn't need WinCustomize. It could happilly just send people over to deviantART for skins and themes. WC has to sink or swim on its own. Stardock pays the lion's share of the bills.
8) We are working on it. I did very little else this weekend but to try to look into this myself and I'm no database admin or web developer. We are giving it serious attention. These sites are very complicated and what works with 50 people on or 500 people on falls apart when there's 5000 people on sometimes.
9) We would love to have volunteers who can help us with some of these issues. So the CSS template offer, I'll happily accept that help as soon as we get the site working reliably as-is.