Hazy, 2 words *Anger Management*..LoL..of course I would be a hipocrit if I wasnt kidding! I myself could use a little as well..
Question, have you voiced this to the creators of *Trillion?, perhaps they could help, afterall they are the creators of the program. I personally have never used it, but it seems to be quite popular and I dont think you are going to be when a few of the "happy" users read this thread.
There is another program that is supposed to be similar, I do not know if it is any better, since I havent used it either, LoL..
But if you are fed up with Trillion you might take a look at this client..I grabbed this link from here and I am sorry but I do not remember who to give the proper credit to for providing it.
The program looks pretty straight forward though, not to terribly tough to manage..
Anyway, here you go, it is just an alternative.. http://www.im2.com/
IM2 Messenger: Instant Messenger 2
Hope that helps,
Zero.