Hi Mike,
The first picture shows how my tab groups look. You can tell which one is active as long as they have any color selected by noticing how the tab is visually connected to the body below it.
The second picture shows how I picked the color: Right-click the tab, go to Appearance, and then pick a color. I believe the color choices are hard-coded. I went with something that was the closest shade to my chosen background color so it matches well.
Note that each tab can have its own color, but you can do as I did and pick the same color for all tabs.
[Edited based on Neil's reply below.]

