We don't...
My wife is the something that was missing throughout my life. I know it sounds corny but she does complete me in many different ways.
Some of which are my abilities to trust, feel anything other than fear or anger and not be so negative about myself.
On the flip side she feels the protection, love, and everything she missed out on throughout her life.
We are also best friends, we do not have to speak to know what they other is thinking at times even when we find that it is something totally not connected with what is taking place at the moment.
for instance: We are driving down the road the other night and not talking about anything, listening to a CD. Out of the blue I think " He's brining her" and I mumbled it, my wife laughs and says I thought so but wasn't sure. Then comments on how weird that was, because she was thinking about Justin coming home on the 11th on leave.
He is brining his girl friend home with him to meet us and she had been thinking about it while driving.
corny, I know, but it happens...
For me a relationship involves only what one is willing to put into it. I can not make, force, push, wish my wife to do anything, or to love or care for me as I would have her. I can only provide to her of myself those things I am willing to give and expect nothing more than she is able to in return.
We are just lucky that we worked through the things of the past, are working through the things of the present and are willing to face the things of the future and are not able to even begin to envision doing it without the other.
Know what's weird, we're my Grand Parents in training
Gramps and Gram spent 60 years together before Gramps died and she is still Gram but gets a wishful look at times seeing the past.
Marriage is a public display/announcement of commitment and also social insurance along with being a Tax Break
