Well I had a much better day today and feel quite positive. I met up with Shaunna and Steve, Bianca and her Mark at my local shopping plaza and enjoyed their company for a few hours. Besides, Shaunnna repaid 20 bucks I loaned her a while back and I got my stonger meds, so that's made a difference. Like it wouldn't have had time to make a difference just yet, but I took one earlier and feel better just in knowing things will improve with the higher dose.
The other thing that pleased me is that Bianca and I made some headway towards getting her children back. I've had previous experience with such matters and thus offered my full support, which she has accepted with open arms and now seems more calm/relaxed than before. While I have some knowledge regarding Family Law, it's more about moral support and being there, offrering advice regarding court procedures, etc. We didn't always get on the same page so easily, so I'm pretty chuffed about it.
Cap'n - there are other things to be considered. Although personality does change with aging, physical and mental illnesses can also be responsible.
Of course, that doesn't make things any easier to bear...just easier to understand. Perhaps you might have a talk with her M.D.?
Yup: age; senility, the depression she doesn't believe in; anxiety issues that don't exist, I'm sure they're all playing a role, but getting her to see that is a completely different kettle of fish. I can clearly see signs to the opposite, but to her she is in complete control of her faculties and her thinking is quite logical and rational. As for seeing her [my former] doctor, well it's unlikely as I have switched clinics for personal convenience and would find it awkward... getting there as well. Nah, I'll just do my own thing in my own space and keep to myself until she leaves for England, which now I'm told will be October 1st.... and naughtily I'm counting down the days
from experience... people as they get older, their memories of the distant past/early years, become way more vivid and important to them, kind of magnified, while recent past and present do not register as much on the importance/relevance scale...
Hehe, that reminds me of the 1st lines from Jim Steinman's song: Rock n' Roll Dreams Come Through, when he screams out: "I remember everything. I remember every little thing like it was just yesterday....."
Well that's pretty much it. I'm still copping judgemental criticism for things I did as a 5 year old...and then there's the recent comparisons, whether there's any similarity or connection or not. I mean, I can't see a connection or similarity to my repacking stuff she said she didn't want cluttering up her kitchen to my throwing away a toy I got into trouble for playing with when I was 5, but she obviously does, and calls me a twat for doing so.... at her behest.
You choose your friends....you choose your spouse....but you're born with your family.
I've not always done well choosing wives or friends - some choices were most regretful - but blood is supposed to be thicker than water, so they say. Obviously not always.
Anyway, I'm not going to spoil the rest of my day with more of this.
