thx elvee

appreciate that ... but i suppose the abstract walls are going to get slammed a bit as there are so many of them ... but that's all i know how to do -- lol. anyway, onward and upward ... GoodMorphing, you said exactly how i feel: the balance between independence and marriage should definitely involve the heart ... my heart just hasn't been involved for awhile ... so i took that to mean that i should be single and independent for awhile longer

that and my youngest child just left home -- time for this grandma to start a little living on her own

i figure at 46, i still have a few good years left