feline decides to embrace my ignorance with several limbs at once

what is the point in having one partner who is always wrong?

from the male point of view, i would get fed up of being told that i was wrong all the time, especially since i bound to be right some of the time, even if only by accident

and from the female point of view, what is the point in having conversations with someone who is always wrong, since i would end up spending so much time correcting them, no actual conversation or communication would take place?

feline still thinks humans are strange

The secret is to tie them up and beat them senselessly into submission.....[well....I think that's what my wife is trying to do]....

i think there is a word for that Jafo

feline goes looking for a dictionarry

ah yes, here it is, 'marrage'
good old circular definitions strike again

Forget tit "I"...
Am "I" the only one...

Well, from my point of view (been married for 5 1/2 years, and been with my husband for almost 8) is that you first have to have open communication. Anywhere from talking about things that you know will piss off the other person, to trival things like "why can't you ever put the remote control back on the coffee table". (And, no, it is not my husband who always misplaces it ).

I also believe that you need to learn to grow togther. People change over time. If you do not learn to grow together, you will grow apart and eventually break up. That is why you have to be with somebody who is enough like you that you can relate to eachother, but is different enough that you are always interested in what they are doing.

And lastly, pure attraction to eachother. You don't want to end up having to have seperate bedrooms!

Frogboy has Admin access. Admin means work. I don't like work. When I'm at home, I'm on as Draginol. Meaning, no admin access. No work. Site is quicker (admin options don't get displayed). Same guy, just different accounts.

Frogboy/Draginol

For me to have a successful marriage you need:

Love
Respect
Honesty
Communicating

If you have all ingredients listed here this is enought.

Don't think performance for sex is a priority because if you communicate with you partner you don't need to have the top partner, because you can make learn the person what you want and also you can learn togheter what you never expected from yourself.

Everything is a question of respect and communication and honesty, but you will not do this if you don't love the person. This is why I have listed them togheter.

Don't think we need passion, I think a lot of people is wrong on what passion really is. Passion is provocate by the insecurity to loose the person you share. Insecuritry can be caused by multiples events: lies, if you are not respected, when you are sad, when you think your partner loves someone else, when you think your partner will leave you, when you think your partner don't talk to you enough.

Love is supposed to gives you the feeling that you are so confortable that you don't want to move, like when you are sleeping in a so confortable position that you don't want to move a finger.

Respecting, communicating with you partner this is what is really important. People have to learn that we can not read in the mind of someone else, and they need to know by telling them, this is the most effitien way to do it. Sure we can guess, but a guess is a guess, and not always what it's supposed to be really. Being honest with your partner is not easy because you need to be honest with yourself first, that means you have to know yourself alot.


Sorry if my english is poor I'm too lazy to check what I wrote hehehehe

Please Jafo forgive me