Okay, so I do apologise to Vampothika and neone6. It wasn't my intention to have a debate about marriage break out on what is really a special thread for the both of you.
That said, allow me to state a few things. I do feel divorce is a necessity, for the reason that DrJBHL stated if nothing else. I have no wish to marry my fiancee "in the eyes of god", because I'm an agnostic. Marriage for me is purely about making a deeper commitment to her, and showing her just how much I love her. My fiancee has had MS for nearly three years, and we've been together for just over five-and-a-half years. That means I've seen her in the flesh before the MS has started to cripple her, and I've witnessed her slow degradation. As unbearable as it may possibly become, I want to be by her side regardless of what the disease does to her. I want to be there to pimp her wheelchair when it gets to the point where she needs one (I suspect she's going to want us to get all Steampunk on its ass).
If you want to get religious about it all, what god would frown upon two people loving and supporting each other as we do. I'm a mess mentally, she's a mess physically; we aren't spoiling another couple, y' know what I mean. It's not about sex, so there's no reason to use any Sodom and Gomorrah diatribe. There's more sex drive in roadkill than there is between my partner and I, my pills have made damn sure of that on my end. Besides, I've spent long enough on my own to know that sex isn't the important thing. Being able to fall asleep in the arms of the person you love is the important thing. Being able to grow as a person and grow old alongside somebody who helps to make life worth sticking around for; who helps to make you understand why the hell you're here on this floating rock. That's what is important. I'm not interested in tax breaks or legal rights. I just want to be with the woman I love; face to face, and hand in hand, instead of using a freakin' webcam and microphone all the time. I want to be able to stop feeling so damn useless when she's in pain, because I'm over three-thousand miles away from her. Last but not least, we want the right to be as bloody miserable as any hetero married couple.
To know that we are denied the possibility of being together because of a piece of paper called DOMA, and a book containing the word of a deity that can create the universe and everything within it, yet can't write this book in the first place, and entrusts that duty to a massively flawed and confused species; well that just makes me want to wretch in anger.
Speech over... here's Tom with the weather!
