The right click menu in question loads automatically under the following conditions you have a DX theme loaded and you have the standard windows desktop icons disabled(not visible).

Now were getting somewhere! Well observed big footed dog

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That is indeed the case. Under those circumstances its the standard Windows desktop right click menu that appears, which is at least a small improvement from the DX right click menu. At least it inherits the WB skin... Now im going to experiment with a combination of all of the above and throw the RightClick application in the mix and see if i can get a result that i am happy with! Ill be back...
Ro
Update: OK, so heres my findings. In short, RightClick seems to have saved the day. I loaded it and tested it with desktop icons both hidden and visible, and in either case (regardless of if you are in DX Client or DX Builder mode) when you click on a section of the screen NOT occupied by DX objects, widgets etc... as per the diagram posted earlier in the thread, the Stardock RC menu over-rides the ugly DX right click menu. Therefore i can fully customize it to my liking, it will inherit my WB skin, and my issue is solved.
This of course i am chuffed with. However, it doesnt take away from the fact that now i have an extra program loaded in memory in order to solve the problem. Luckily RightClick is a small app and doesn't take up much memory, but its the principle of the matter that im trying to get across, the fact that the right click menu in DX is not customizable in any way, and if a user really doesnt like it they will have to load an extra program to get rid of it. Had RightClick been a CPU intensive application this wouldnt have been a viable workaround, so again i think it should be a feature of future DX releases that the menu can in some way be either customized or disabled at the users preference. I doubt that this would be a big deal, probably just a small piece of code i would think...
Anyway, thanks to you all for helping me out, this is what i love about WinCustomize, people share their experiences and inevitably you can find a solution, get to know a few people and everyone goes away smiling! Knowledge is power, sharing knowledge is powerful!
Ro
Image Update: Check out the new screenshot with lovely foxy RightClick menu:

Ro